Tuesday, 12 June 2018

Add the Good Stuff First

Published on Medium.com:


(Like I needed an excuse to share that photo around again!)


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Wednesday, 6 June 2018

Don't give up on me!

The "real" posts have slowed down more than usual lately - mea culpa, mea culpa.

My excuses (which are all watertight and completely reasonable) are as follows:


  • Half-term AGAIN.  Honestly, you put kids in school, you think they're going to be at school for more than 5 weeks at a stretch.  This French/International system is forcing me to spend more time with my kids than any mother should ever have to (after the age of 5) (the kid, not the mother). (Oh, bother.)
  • Fevers!  Our local Boots seems to be always sold out of More Cowbell, so the Hufflings have had more than their share of illnesses lately.  Averaging 2.5 days for each bout, they tie me to the flat, meaning I have a restless dog, no real good excuse to not write, and a nap (sympathetic).
  • Actual focus.  I accidentally met with a life coach and have been tricked into setting goals against my will, which has led me to update my "resume", create a "portfolio", and "alienate three people whom I hold in the highest esteem by sending them a writing sample for their feedback".  It's going well so far, thanks for asking.
  • Other Social Media.  I finally did it.  I joined Facebook.*  AND, you might notice that I plumped up my portfolio by writing some new healthy eating/lifestyle articles on Medium, which you can check out here.  There will be more of these to come, and if you like them, please do share them (or "clap" for them on the site - it sends me warm fuzzies).
So, to sum up, there has been a dearth of "actual" blogging lately, but I promise to fix that soon.  I've been reading, reaching out, and trying very hard to become a Real Writer, but my children and their school life keeps conspiring against me.


* for career potential, possible job postings and fitness class covers, not as a social network.  So, if you "friend" me, just make sure that your expectations are low.

Saturday, 19 May 2018

Monday, 30 April 2018

(Not So) Nice

Let me send out this invitation to everyone I know:  any time you'd like, you can come visit.  You can stay in our flat for free and eat our food with our kids and our dog, while Chris and I bugger off somewhere for a romantic getaway.

(This offer doesn't apply to strangers.)  (Strangers, you'll have to bring your own food.)

My parents came to visit at the beginning of April, just when the kids were off on Easter Break (yes!  another break! Only five weeks after the last time they had a two-week break!). This one, however, was two-and-a-half weeks long, which is, if you've been following along at home, one-and-a-half weeks past my breaking point.  SO, they came, they sight-saw (past tense), and allowed Chris and I a weekend-long hall pass to celebrate our anniversary.

We started looking as soon as we had their travel dates, and originally requested four days in Florence.  To which my father spluttered and declared that he wasn't coming all the way to London to babysit.  (I like to call it "spending quality time with your grandchildren".)  To which Fis spluttered and said, HOW long are they staying with us for free???  (I like to call it "spending quality time with your in-laws").

We found a happy medium by using up a whole lot of his points to book two business-class tickets to Nice, France, for two-and-a-half days of child-free bliss, sunshine, and wine.

Ah, yes.  The ironic souvenir platter.


A Pronunciation Guide:  Without exception, when I told anyone that we were headed to Nice (n-ee-ss), they would exclaim, "Nice!" (n-eye-ss).  And then I'd say, "No, it's actually pronounced, 'nice'" (n-ee-ss).  Also, without exception, nobody would laugh.  Not even once.

I digress.

We packed on a Wednesday morning, checked in online, sent the kids and parents off to the zoo, and took a cab to Paddington, then the Heathrow Express to Gatwick.

Just seeing if you're still paying attention.  We took it to Heathrow, of course.

We got there early and checked our two smallish bags. (Smallish is relative.  In this case, my smallish is about the size of everyone else on the plane's carry-on, while my carry-on was my little purse, containing my passport, wallet, and a book.  I was travelling so light that I didn't even have a little baggie of hand cream, chapstick and mascara!  (This becomes important later, when -- spoiler alert -- they lose my luggage.)  Chris' was smallish for him, which was a pretty big rolling suit bag, far too much for 2 1/2 days, but probably the lightest he'd ever packed, so, we encourage.)

We went immediately to the business class lounge, had drinks of the alcoholic variety and enough snacks to make it worthwhile, then meandered over to the duty-free shop, for the leisurely, romantic experience of testing and choosing a new perfume for me, since he has apparently never liked the perfume I've been wearing since 2000.  (Did I mention that this was our 11th-anniversary trip?*)  And I didn't really like the one he'd bought me in 2010 to replace it.  We strolled up and down the aisles, and sprayed two little pieces of paper each with the scents we liked, then switched, made faces at each other's choices (mine were too floral, his were too musky), then he glanced at his watch, panicked, and told me to "just grab something" because our flight was about to board.  So I grabbed a bottle that we had both passively liked, the first thing we smelled on the way in, and that was it.  Romance!**

We ran to the gate, stood around for a bit, and then boarded.  I'm not going to go into great detail about how we were seated in the aisle and window seats of the front section of the plane, where business class would usually be, but I think they expected that we'd see the empty seat between us as a luxurious amount of room, kind of like, oh, business class seats.  Which they were not.  But, the food was tasty, the bubbles bubbly, and it was fine.



We stopped in Geneva for two hours, lounged in the lounge (more wine and snacks), then got onto another flight to Nice.  This time, we were seated across the aisle from each other in non-business seats on an almost-empty plane, but there was another tasting plate and more bubbly.  All good.

We landed just before 8pm, and made our way to the baggage claim, where literally, eight pieces of luggage appeared, snaked around once, were picked up by their owners, and... "Um, where's your bag?" asked Chris.

Huh.  No bag.  Nice.

The optimist and realist in me both agree that it was far better that my bag was lost than Chris', but it still wasn't a good thing.  Also, the computer system was down, so the baggage agent wrote everything down on a piece of paper and stapled the carbon copy to another piece of paper.  She said that when the system was running again, she'd text me my tracking number.  She also said that instead of providing those handy little kits with toothbrushes and deodorant in them, they now just reimbursed the costs.  Huh.  Nice.

We left the airport in heavy rain, around 9 pm, while I tried repeatedly to get Uber to work on my phone, since every tourist site and every recommendation we had was to avoid taxis in Nice, especially from the airport.  It wouldn't work, over and over.  So, we took a taxi, who gave us a prix fixe (which in this case means literally price fixing - they are all in cahoots) of 40 euros, to drive us for 10 minutes.  He dropped us off about half a kilometre from the room we had found on Booking.com, and we walked the rest of the way, in the pouring rain.  Silver lining:  I didn't have to drag a bag, sooo... Nice.

The "Room With a Vue", which looked lovely on Booking.com, was situated right in Old Town, on top of a little cafe.  The website photos were of bright rooms, modern bathrooms and little balconies.  We had booked the studio, and were excited to drop off our bag (just one bag, now), buy me a toothbrush, and go out for dinner.  A waitress from the cafe showed us up to it, and... wow.  The "Vue" was either through a tiny window far above my eye level, or a little skylight directly over the bed, on a sharply-slanted, exposed-beam ceiling.  No balcony.  The bathtub was placed against another sharp slant, with a dormer bumped out so that you could stand upright in the very centre of the tub to use the handheld showerhead.  The kitchenette had a microwave (in the photo, not in real life) and a round table and four chairs.

We grimaced and went out to get a toothbrush, some wine, and had a lovely dinner of coq au vin and a potage de boeuf.  With wine.  We splashed back to our room and looked at it with fresh (slightly drunk) eyes.

In a romantic ideal, it was the perfect studio apartment for a starving poet.  It would be filled with dozens of cluttered bookcases and candles, and we'd drink cheap wine, and eat food with our fingers as we planned a revolution.  It's the kind of place I would have loved in university.

I am of two minds about that skylight.  It was well-placed, in that had it not been directly over my side of the bed, I would have bumped my head on the ceiling everytime I sat up.  However, in the interest of "staying asleep" and "keeping dry", it was not ideal, as the raging thunder and hail storms were very loud, and also, it leaked.  On me.

The next morning, we noticed a strong smell in the kitchenette, which had been apparently covered up the night before by the (suspicious) can of air freshener.  We opened a cabinet, and whah!  There was a plastic bin of vegetables-so-rotten-that-they-had-liquified, and a basket of -- searching for the word - not potpourri, but aha! -- "les onions pourris".  And the wifi no longer worked.  And the roof was still leaking. 

The wifi was important, as I needed to continuously check the baggage tracking app to make sure that I stopped shopping when my suitcase was found.  As it was, we waded out through torrential rain to the closest shopping area and bought new jeans (on sale!), a sweater (on sale!), two sets of socks and underthings (cheapest ones they had!), mascara (necessity, not luxury) and a pair of teenager shoes, these ones white floral and slightly too big because nobody makes shoes in my size!!!  All this while feverishly checking the app.

Fis' smile is looking a bit strained.


By the time we had lunch in a nice Nice cafe (Chris had a nicoise salad, I had a caprese salad with enough cheese to kill me), with wine, and sloshed back to the room hovel, we expected a nicer-smelling room... or a drier one... or one in which the wifi worked.

Alas.

Chris went for a nice long Nice run along the beach in the downpour, while I did calisthenics in my bare feet (and his t-shirt) in our room.  I also sent a nice long suprisingly-pleasant-under-the-circumstances email to the owner of the hotel.  By the time we went out for dinner (yes, still raining), I had a phone call back - we could move to another room, the rotten onions would be cleaned up, and was I sure the wifi didn't work?


No more attempted smiles for Fis.  I am probably drunk of a more cheerful disposition.


Upon our (soggy) return to the hotel, we were full of delicious food and wine, and much cheerier.  We moved our stuff (again, still just the one bag) to another room, and it had a view!  A beautiful view (true, it was a view of an extremely rainy street), but it had a balcony, and there were no liquified vegetables in sight or in scent.  Still no wifi.

The next morning, twenty minutes before check-out, the baggage tracker suddenly indicated that my luggage had not only been found but was out for delivery!  I panicked, but it showed up with five minutes to spare.  I had already packed my small amount of laundry, perfume and new toothbrush in Chris' bag, but I took my small suitcase, thanked the driver, and the rain stopped.  For all of our "issues", we were treated like royalty at the cafe, where Chris enjoyed a breakfast of Elvissian proportions, and they offered to watch our bags while we walked along the beach for the last hour of our vacation.


As we walked, the sun came out, and the aqua sea and brightly-painted old town were dazzling.  It was a glorious day, almost too hot within the hour.  The stones on the beach were worn smooth, and we managed to pick up some souvenirs for the kids before returning to the airport.



Would I go back?  If the last morning was any indication of the possibilities of Nice, then I would definitely give it another chance.  The staff, eventually, were nice to the point of ridiculousness, though whether it was because they felt bad about the rain/luggage/ruined romantic getaway/stinky-and-shack-like accommodations or because they hoped to avoid a poor review on Booking.com (I still haven't decided what to give them yet), I really can't tell.

Next time, however, I'm going to keep my mascara (and a pair of underwear) in my purse.

Sun, sea, and smooches.



* There is a difference between "11th anniversary trip" and "11th-anniversary trip":  the former indicates that there have been ten previous anniversary trips, while the latter, here, just means "a trip taken on or around one's 11th anniversary", because the last anniversary trip (for our first anniversary) was taken in 2008.  It's true.  Hey!  Guess what happened between then and now?  Children.  Children happened. 

** Ironically, Romance was my forever perfume*** when I met him.  His rejection of Romance should have been a red flag.

*** I'm totally not fancy enough to pull off a "signature scent", and a "me-smell" sounds not quite fancy enough.


Sunday, 25 March 2018

Chocolate and Wine

Alternate title:  What are the only two things that matter in life?

I've survived another two weeks of illness (six-day head cold - me) (still ongoing flu from Satan - Tamsin), poorly-behaved associates (children and dog), while not exercising enough, hosting a fancy dinner party, keeping my house spotless (on the day that I clean it) (for up to four hours or until the children come home from school or the dog needs to go out to pee in the rain and comes back in all wet, whichever comes first).

Tamsin woke up with a warm forehead on Monday at 7 am, and I decided to keep her home, missing my running group.  After a quick three-hour nap, she rallied and enlisted me to play Princess Snap, colour a LOT, and paint her nails with pink sparkly nail polish. 

Tuesday, then, I dragged her bodily out of bed and sent her off to school, but got a call at the end of the day that she was warm, they had given her paracetamol (British for tylenol, possibly?), and that they were putting her on the school bus to come home.  As Chris was going to be out late, I decided to coast on the temporary warm haze that medication was granting us and treat the kids to McDonald's.  It was sort of like watching a time-lapse photo of a piece of fruit decomposing... she just got paler and quieter and paler and quieter, and I carried her home from the bus stop, helped her into her jammies, and tucked her in before 7.

Wednesday, she was burning up all day.  She got out of bed every few hours for watered-down juice, saying please, thank you and sorry, breaking my heart.  She was the sweetest little patient ever.  She was still hot at bedtime, so I decided to keep her home again on Thursday. 

Oh.  Dear.  Lord. 

She did not stop talking for even one minute between 7 am and 1 pm.  It was a constant, stream-of-consciousness patter, and in the absence of consciousness, there was nonsense-sound babbling and weird giggling.  She followed me around and wanted to sweep, vacuum and mop with me as I cleaned the house for our dinner guests.  She chattered at me through the bathroom door.  The only lingering sign of sickness was that she went to bed without eating her creme brulee (see also, fancy).  So, Friday morning, when she was white (er than usual), coughing, and eating very little, I thought she was just being difficult.  And went for a nice 7.5 mile run.

She got off the bus at the end of the day, white and wan and still coughing, hot to the touch.  She dragged herself to bed and didn't get up till Saturday morning (early), despite being entreated with pizza and a movie.  We kept it low key for the morning, but then went out in the afternoon to pick up Ailsa at a birthday party at Westfields...and wandered the mall...and ended up carrying her.  Against my better judgement, we stopped for dinner at Jamie's Italian, which was surprisingly good.  About two bites into her spaghetti and meatballs, she put her head back, closed her eyes, and fell properly and completely asleep. 

Today, she was up at 7.  Cheerful, talkative, keen to go to the park.  We played football and had a picnic at the park, played fetch with the dog, then came home and cuddled on the couch to watch a cooking show before dinner. 

I tucked her in early, started reading Tom Sawyer to the older two, sent them to bed, then waited about 12 seconds before physically climbing up on the counter to reach the out-of-my-reach chocolate stash and pouring myself a glass of wine.  This may have followed by a second climb and a second glass.

Tomorrow, the plan is to pack her off to school, go for a 7-mile run, take the dog for a decent walk, and spend a good few hours writing.  However, I am mentally preparing myself to spend the day with a sick-but-not-sick little girl. 

I will lock up any and all (if any) remaining chocolate before I go to bed tonight, and hide my stepstool in a separate, undisclosed location.  And tomorrow, I will wake up ready for whatever may happen.